Twelve steps to building self-love
When I look at these three phrases, I find them intertwined – each one impacts the other.
But the bottom line is, above all else, being kind to and loving yourself is so very important to living a thriving life.
It can help improve relationships.
And, more so, it can and is good for your health.
Global self-love index by The Body Shop indicated:
60% of people wish they had more respect for themselves.
One in two women feels more self-doubt than self-love.
I found these statistics to be alarming!
In a world where we face criticism, judgment, and comparison daily, the one person we should always be able to love is ourselves.
Explore who you are!
I often hear people say some form of a comment that they don’t know who they are or have trouble choosing what they want in life.
Work to become the expert of yourself.
What makes you happy or brings you joy?
What do you want for yourself and your life?
Create your Non-negotiables
In life, there are so many areas we end up compromising on. From the things we would rather not do at work; to those things that we do for people we care about, that we don't necessarily want to do.
But and this is a big one!
There are areas we should never compromise when it comes to our values, beliefs, and core desires.
Have you ever taken a look at your values, inner beliefs, or truths you want to live by?
If you haven’t yet, go back to explore who you are and get clear on this part. After you do, decide what your line in the sand is. What are your non-negotiables in life?
Recreate those negatives & Debunk the falsities you have created about yourself!
The fact is, we all have areas that we are harder on ourselves than others. But there is a line between what we want to do/be better at, versus – tearing ourselves down or criticizing ourselves for the things we are doing or how we are being.
Often those self-deprecating remarks come from past false beliefs or trauma.
Take a look at how you give yourself feedback and start recreating how you do.
Use the feedback as growth, not to tear yourself down.
Heal the past
Those false beliefs/traumas I mentioned earlier can plague us if we let them.
Take the time to get to the root and heal them. Some ways you can do this include:
Finding a coach to help
Journaling and/or writing in a way to release the past
Complete a timeline exercise of your life and when emotions were built. After you have, look back on those times and decide if you would like to keep the story built or change it. It is also beneficial to get into a meditative place and talk to your younger you.
Consider seeing a holistic practitioner that specializes in Neuro-emotional Technique